I agree completely. Changing our beliefs is central to lasting change. Tony Robbins says "we must develop a sense of certainty that we can and will meet the new standards before we actually do".
So if you want to lose 10 pounds, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
If you want to lose 50 pounds, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
If you want to lose 100 pounds, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
If you want to reverse an illness or get off medication, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
If you want to quit smoking forever, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
And if you want to exercise daily to improve your health, you must first believe with certainty that you can and will.
I have a window of time I'm about to pass through that is significant to me. I will turn 49 in February. That is the age my father was when he died. And my mom died when she was 52. If I get radically honest with you, somewhere deep down, I have a fear (belief) that I won't make it through the window.
Over the years, I've talked with and read books written by many people who lost their parents young, and I know that this is common. There is something in us that finds it hard to comprehend being at an age that's older than our parent ever was. It's understandable.
The problem is this. If I am rooted in my fear belief, then what's the point of working out, making healthy choices, quitting smoking or anything else? I might as well eat, drink and smoke whatever I want. It doesn't matter anyway.
I lived rooted in that philosophy for a long time. It is the mighty saboteur. It is the force that comes up when, every time you try to make a change, derails it. It is a little whisper over and over of, "what difference does it make, what difference does it make" in response to every little healthy choice or attempt to change.
And it's a LIAR.
How many of you believe I won't see 53 years old?? Of course I will! (In fact I plan to live to be a hundred, still training you all, still telling you to get your shoulders back and down!) And if I don't, it certainly won't be because of the window. The ages of my parents' deaths has NO power anywhere except in my heart. That is where it can take away my certainty that I can and will succeed, or live, or have my dreams come true, or lose 10, 50, 100 pounds.
Tony Robbins calls the antidote "taking control of your belief systems". I call it healing and knowing the Truth. The truth is my life has a purpose. I have work to do and people to love. I have hikes to take, workouts to get to, and healthy food to cook. The truth is I am going to live to be a hundred. And if I don't, I will live however long I get to in freedom; out from under the rule and reign of fear and lies, which was the only thing that ever held me back.
That was the only thing that ever held me back. Now that it's healed, I believe with certainty that I can and will, which makes all the difference.