I know I do. My false beliefs are like lottery balls. You know; the white ping pong balls in the clear box that they use to pick lotto numbers. When I am in my comfort zone, doing what I've always done, it is like the machine is off. The balls just sit at the bottom of the machine. Nothing moves, nothing comes up.
But then I try to make a change. It's like someone fires up the lottery machine. Suddenly all the numbers are bouncing around, fighting to pop out of the tube at the top.
So for example, I might decide to start walking regularly. Sounds like a good thing to do for myself. I know I have to walk to lose weight. Shouldn't be too hard, right? And if I don't have any false beliefs to deal with, then it won't be too hard. But if I do, it is like someone flips the switch to ON and all of a sudden all those ping pong balls are bouncing around like crazy.
This is where it becomes much more than just a walk. It becomes an opportunity for healing. My decision to walk has triggered a false belief to pop up to the surface. "I don't have time. It is too hot, too cold, too wet, or too humid. My mother, daughter, sister needs me. I'm too tired."
Now at any point, we can take these thoughts as truth, and skip the walk. That is how to stay stuck. Change is impossible if you keep making the same choice.
But at some point, we can challenge the thought. Is it true that I don't have time? Is it true it is too hot or too cold or too wet or too humid? Is it true I can't work out how to balance the needs of others with the needs of myself? Am I really too tired?
Change comes from hearing the lies, but replacing it with truth.
I don't have time becomes I'll make time.
It's too hot, cold, wet, humid becomes it's fine, I am strong and I can deal with it.
Someone else needs me is replaced with I can take care of myself AND others.
I'm too tired becomes I can do it.
One of the beautiful things about this process is as the lies are replaced by truth, they stop coming up. It is like in the lotto drawing. Once the number is picked, it can't be picked again.
I spent many years of my life miserable and stuck. It was so hard to understand why. But then I saw it. I believed every thought I had was some basic truth, when in fact most of my thoughts were not true. Thoughts like, "I'll never matter" or "It's too late for me". "I can't quit smoking or lose weight, I always fail." "I don't have time, I can't do it". When I took that sidestep to see these thoughts from the perspective of an observer instead of identifying with them, I realized they were rooted in lies and fear. My journey has been so much less about fitness, exercise and nutrition and more about learning how to not identify with the lies I was carrying around. I needed to learn who I really was.
And the only way to do this is to try. What comes up, the false beliefs, lies, fears and excuses are gifts. They will lead you to so much more than fitness. They are a wonderful path back to your authentic self.