Every heartache you have ever experienced.
Every betrayal by someone you loved.
Every loss that tore your heart to pieces.
Every critical word spoken to you.
Every time you were rejected, abandoned, unaccepted.
Every time you suffered abuse or neglect.
That moment is right now.
Right now, as you stand at the refrigerator mindlessly looking for something to comfort you.
Right now, as you look at your workout shoes and decide whether to put them on or leave them there.
Right now, as you take the bag of snacks off the top of the fridge and bring it with you to the living room.
Right now, as you dial the number for pizza delivery.
Right now, as you just finished eating dinner, but feel so restless and anxious you are looking for more.
It’s all there. So is the Truth. Your identity. Who you really are.
A beautiful woman, inside and out.
A woman with a soul that transcends her story.
An overcomer, conqueror, warrior.
A brave girl who is worthy of love.
An imperfectly perfect, authentic, vulnerable being.
A child of God.
My choices will come from either my brokenness or my wholeness.
One of the hardest things I had to learn was to take responsibility for my choices. A little bit didn’t work for me. I was too broken. I had to learn to take radical responsibility for my choices. That meant seeing my role in everything.
It turns out radical responsibility is the path to radical empowerment. When the answers were always out there, I had no hope. I couldn’t change what was out there, so I was stuck, desperate and scared.
But whatever I took responsibility for, I could change. I could make a different choice.
If I had a broken heart, I could step onto a healing path of forgiveness.
If I was betrayed, I could move on.
If I experienced loss, I could grieve and heal.
If I was criticized, I could learn the truth.
If I was rejected or abandoned, I could reclaim my worth.
Our lives are made up of all our choices, minute by minute, day after day. Our choices matter. But the only way we can make choices that honor our life and our health is if we understand what our life is worth.
Although our lives are made up of our choices, we are more than that. We are love itself. We are the miraculous creation, made to reflect love. And because our identity does not lie in what we do, or what has been done to us, we cannot damage or lose our worth. Ever.
So our job is not to create a daily practice of walking, lifting, eating healthy, etc. so much as it is to create a daily practice of remembering our worth and who we really are. Of knowing that when a moment of choice comes, if we are deeply rooted in our spiritual daily practice, that choice will be a healthy one. That choice will reflect our belief that we area loved, worthy and good enough.
That is what it means for Love to conquer all.