Do you know how horrifying it is to work so hard, get organized, get on a program, follow it to the letter, hear from people time and again. "Great job!" "You look fantastic!" Then slowly watch as it slips away and the weight comes back on?
It's a terrible feeling of defeat and shame.
When it comes to weight loss, I have one goal for every person I come into contact with that has a weight loss goal. That is to help them lose weight ONE TIME only. One time.
It would be so easy for me to put everyone with a weight loss goal on a diet. I could take a before picture and then three months later, post how amazing they look 10-15 pounds less. I could boost and create ads and have people lining up at the door. But I can't do that because it's a sham.
Diets only work when you are ON them.
What happens when you go off?
If you haven't changed, healed and learned while you were on the weight loss journey, it comes back on. Every time.
Now, I know we all know someone who went on a diet, lost weight, and kept it off. That is absolutely possible for people who just needed a little enlightenment about calories, portion size, and stuff like that. The "what to do" part of nutrition, fitness and health.
But if it didn't work for you the first time, that means there is more stuff to deal with. The "I know what to do, I just don't do it" part of nutrition, fitness and health.
There are ten truths I keep in mind when talking to women about diets, nutrition and health:
1. What you go ON, you can go OFF.
2. Less than 20% of people who lose weight keep it off for a year.
3. Less than 5% of people who lose weight keep it off for a lifetime.
4. Being a daily walker is a huge predictor of keeping weight off.
5. Strength training is a key factor is sustainable lifelong fitness.
6. If you know what to do but just don't do it, there are deeper issues going on.
7. Food is one of the most overused drugs, comforts, and substitutes there are.
8. Anyone can change at any age. They must be willing to get real and stop looking outside themselves to diets (or something else) for the answer. They must go for the miracle.
9. Being at a comfortable body weight for you might be a lot different than what the charts say. Or magazines.
10. Getting and staying fit is one of the most empowering things a woman over 40 can do for herself and those she loves.
I spent many years stuck, looking for the answers outside myself. That wasn't where I needed to be looking. I needed to look within. What was making me turn to food, alcohol, smoking, TV and away from daily activity? What beliefs did I hold that were keeping me stuck? What was I trying to escape from and not think about?
Turns out those things were the gifts in the dark. Because freedom from those self-limiting beliefs led me to the spiritual work that set me free in every other area of my life as well. A diet never could have done that. A before and after picture doesn't tell the story of healing, redemption and love unless it was done at the heart level.
Ditch the diets and start an authentic journey that will spill over into every area of your life. Go for the miracle. It's waiting for you.