As you can imagine, I've heard some things during that time, and learned a lot about human nature.
When new people come in, so many of them feel ashamed (or are beating themselves up) that they've not been able to get fit, or overcome feeling stuck, on their own.
I have a news flash: We are not made to grow, heal, become more empowered, get fit, get clean, or get healthy on our own.
In no way is it a failure, or personal defect, if we weren't able to force ourselves to go to the basement or the big gym and get our workouts done alone. Yes, there are rare people that can do that, and even enjoy it. Sometimes men think women should be able to do that.
Dude. We go to the bathroom in groups.
There is so much science behind the power of a group. The motivation, accountability, connection. From personal experience, my absolute favorite workouts are when I am with others who make it fun, groan (and possibly swear) a lot, see me, and push/encourage me to do more than I think I can.
Very rarely is it the workout that primarily motivates me to do something. It is the time spent with my people, my fitness friends, my tribe that calls me to lace up my shoes and head out of my cozy, warm little house. I always love the workout, but I'm motivated by connection.
"When two or three of you are together because of me, you can be sure that I'll be there." - Love
That's the kind of workout I want. So that's the kind of workout space I created. If you can't get here, get somewhere with some fitness friends and stop beating yourself up for not being able to do it alone. We're not meant to do it alone. We're not made to do it alone.
It's not about the bicep curls, squats or rows. Those things can't support you when you feel like quitting. Those things can't encourage you to adopt lifelong, sustainable health and fitness. They won't be there for you when you are recovering from surgery or an illness.
Your community will.
I could list a thousand gifts fitness has brought into my life. My dream job, the Canyon hike, good report cards from my kidney specialist, marathon finishes, charity events, strong leg muscles, and more. But none of those compares to the groovy, wonderful community of fitness friends who are part of my life now.
You enjoy working out alone? Fabulous! But if you don't, embrace that without judgment and find your happy place to dance, lift, power walk, spin, Pilates, run, swim, yoga or move. It's not a failure. You haven't fallen short. It's simply how we are made.