Illness or injury.
A sick parent.
Sudden financial problem.
Divorce, personal attack or betrayal.
Self-esteem meltdown, depression, anxiety, addiction.
You see, my father died suddenly when I was 13 years old. My mom was already sick, and she died ten years later. Those things wrecked my young world, so I have spent most of my life trying to make sure no more bombs go off.
I have tried to control the universe.
Some days, it seems like my superpowers are working. Everything I built, created or manifested is in its proper place humming along as it should be. That is when the illusion of control tricks me into believing that I have much say in the matter.
Then, along comes a bomb. Kaboom.
It is one thing to make healthy food choices and to stick with an exercise commitment when things are going according to plan. It is a whole other thing to try to love and care for myself when it looks like everything is in pieces.
I get it.
I mean, the ice cream helps but only as long as it's on the spoon.
Later, once I am alone with my thoughts and fears again, I need to rely on something more than a quick hit of comfort or escape.
Remember, fight, flight or freeze are not our only options, tempting as they may be.
There is a fourth option: faith
Faith looks at things completely differently than fight, flight or freeze. Faith lifts us up out of ourselves and the focus on our own little world, and allows us to see our bigger mission.
I recently had a bomb go off. The life I had spent years building and protecting with my false sense of control got blown in two. Maybe you've had that happen to you, too. I felt betrayed. I lost a significant amount of income. I felt lost and confused.
I thought through all my fight options.
I thought through all my flight options. I even put some of my stuff in plastic storage bins. Ready to run.
I froze a lot (haha not body temp. I mean froze in front of Netflix trying not to think about the situation).
The only answer for me, however, is faith.
Faith says this just may be the BEST thing that has ever happened to me.
Faith is the director of comebacks and second chances.
Faith stirs up the Spirit when it seems darkest.
Faith knows that there is no control, so its mantra is Your will be done.
Faith continues with self love and care.
Faith does not quit.
Faith is best friends with Grace.
Faith says don't fear, I'm with you. I'll give you strength, I'll help you.
The enemy would love to use the bombs that go off in our lives as a way to keep us small, stuck, depressed, anxious and powerless. This is where we must fight.
"Be prepared. You're up against for more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it's all over but the shouting you'll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith and salvation are more than words."
A bomb may have gone off. Pieces of your life, your relationships or your business may be all around you.
But I am positive this is NOT how the story ends.
Stand strong and don't be moved.
Stand amidst the rubble and don't be moved.
Stand against darkness and don't be moved.
To stand and not be moved is to KNOW the end of the story, and to keep the faith no matter what it looks like right now. Spoiler alert! Faith wins. Love wins.
Love WINS. So take care of you. We're gonna need you on the team to fulfill our calling. Destiny awaits!