"Re: The critic within.
I wanted to share a recent "aha" moment that finally sunk in and reminded me that we are never ever too old or too knowledgeable to learn the truth. I can't even remember the exact source of the message which leads me to believe it's a combination of teachers who've said this to me, including...you.
Not unlike many people, I am my own worst critic. I am capable of beating myself up to a degree that I would consider abusive, were one person saying to another person some of the horrible things I've said to myself. But the "aha" is this: This critical, self-abusive voice is not the truth. It's not coming from a place of peace and love. And I need to recognize it for what it is, and give that voice a gentle hug and a shove. Now, when I'm "doing my work," meaning taking care of both my body and my soul it's easier to notice, quickly, when that voice comes up. That is the truth as well.
I found myself repeating to a friend, who was verbally beating herself up, the truth that I've found. That is not a godly place from which that voice is speaking. It is the opposite. Our God, or whatever spiritual connection you believe in, doesn't speak to us with such negativity and punishment. The great Spirit is kind and loving and wants good things for us. That also means the great Spirit wants us to treat our minds and our bodies like the wonderful creations that they are.
With this newly discovered truth, it's been easier to stay away from the things I know make that inner critic more prominent. For each of us, it's a different journey. I implore everyone to find their own combination of what they really need and finally silence the inner critic. Stay open to the lessons life offers you. It's never too late. Never ever ever."
I hear her passion and her lesson. Thank you for sharing that.
It reminds me of a quote from Joel Osteen:
"All through the day, there are two voices that compete for our attention - the voice of faith and the voice of defeat. You'll hear a voice saying, "You'll never rise any higher. You don't have what it takes. You've reached your limit." But if you listen carefully, you'll hear another voice saying, "You are well able. You can do all things through Christ. Your best days are still up ahead." You are the one who gets to choose which voice has power in your life. "
Never in a million years did I think, as I was going through all the struggles in my life, that the answers were spiritual lessons. I thought, "If I could just get a handle on my food. If I could just get control of my portions. If I could just be self-disciplined enough to exercise. If I could get rid of this extra weight. If I could fit in my clothes. If I could make more money, keep a cleaner house, have a perfect family, not disappoint anyone. Then I could silence the critic.
But no amount of perfection quiets the voice of defeat.
The only thing more powerful than the voice of defeat is the voice of faith. Speak it. Speak against lies and defeat. There is nothing true about, "You don't have what it takes."
I never thought I would amount to anything. High school drop-out. Bankruptcy. Divorce. No kids of my own. Unhappy and lost. I believed I was a failure. I strived and strived to counteract these thoughts. But no amount of perfection ever quieted the voice of defeat.
I had to learn three things.
1. Me + God (great Spirit, higher power) = my empowerment/my strength
2. What I choose is up to me
3. I will need to rely on the spirit to help me remember who I am, especially when the voice of defeat starts up.
When I tell you my motivation has always been to feel better about myself, it is true. I will exercise, eat more vegetables and drink more water if I can feel better about myself. But those things alone are not enough.
Empowered choices combined with the battle for your mind and thoughts are the killer combo. They are what bring the peace and self-acceptance we all crave. Once we are rooted in peace and self-acceptance, a glance in the mirror is just that, because we already know who we are: Accepted