1. Admit my wounds are unmanageable.
2. A Higher Power is necessary.
3. Surrender to my Higher Power/Holy Spirit.
4. Search my heart daily.
5. Confess/own my junk. All of it.
6. Become ready to invite healing.
7. Humbly ask for miraculous healing.
8. Own how I've hurt others.
9. Apologize and forgive.
10. Continue to confess/own my junk daily.
11. Meditate/pray to stay connected to Holy Spirit.
12. Practice daily and share spiritual experience.
Many times during coaching sessions, we'll start by talking about food or exercise. Where did you get stuck. Where are you struggling? Inevitably, though, we end up talking about daily practices. Daily spiritual practices. Because as Einstein famously said, "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
Compulsive eating, chronic inactivity, or any other iteration of knowing what to do but not doing it, is an inside job. If you know your nutrition is poor, but you make those choices anyway, you can't keep focusing on the food. You have to have a chat with your choice maker. If you know you need exercise, but you keep finding excuses, you don't need a new piece of exercise equipment, a new gym membership or to schedule more workouts. You need to have a chat with your choice maker.
Who is making your choices? Your wounded self? The place in you that has given up? That no longer cares?
Or your highest self? Your authentic self? The place in you that always believes? That knows your worth?
We can't connect to our highest self by measuring food or drinking shakes. Our light doesn't continually shine bright because we shame ourselves into eating less or exercising more. Our light shines bright when we take time to nurture our heart, our soul, our authentic self; our choice maker!
If you keep telling yourself to eat better or exercise more, but you aren't doing it, look within. She's trying to tell you something. Knowing what to do, but not doing it, then beating yourself up for it, is a cry for help from deep inside. Things start to change when, instead of ignoring, escaping and finding another way to try to manage it all, you slow way down and listen.
Sometimes all we need to heal is to be authentically heard. It's one of the miracles of this process. Tell your story. Gather your courage and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Work the steps and heal from the inside out, one day at a time. Not only will you heal your food and exercise issues, your entire life will change. That's what shining your brightest light will do.
Shine on, sisters.