Every time I've given my seminar, there are many women who are hearing the truth for the first time. It's absolutely upside down from our culture. Our culture says, get thin and you'll be accepted. Truth says, understand you are already accepted. Our culture says, get thin by dieting and you will heal your self worth. Truth says know your worth and your food compulsion will heal.
I think the support group setting is one of the most powerful healing tools available. I had been to many therapists before I went to a support group. For me, there was something about hearing other women's stories. I listened to them and heard them describe in detail what they thought was wrong with themselves, but it became clear to me that nothing was wrong with them. They were just wounded. As I listened to them, I became clearer that I wasn't defective or damaged, I was just wounded. Wounds can be healed.
It does take courage.
I will never forget the first time I spoke in one of these groups. I was shaking. Snot was coming out of my nose. I looked straight down at the floor. But I pushed through it and told my story. I was sure that I was the worst any of them had ever heard, and they were there to share but not stuff like THIS. But I pushed through it and told my story. I was sure that they were going to have looks of horror and condemnation when I lifted my eyes. Nope. All love. It came at me like a wave. Love and grace flooding my shaking, snotty self.
When you experience that kind of acceptance, it's pretty hard to keep thinking, "I'm not accepted."
When you experience that kind of love, it's pretty hard to keep thinking, "I am unlovable."
When you experience that kind of grace, it's pretty hard to keep thinking, "There is no grace for me."
I hope you all experience that kind of radical healing. Breaking off the chains of low self worth and knowing the truth. You are accepted. You are loved. There is grace for your past.
For all of us.
"My chains fell off, my heart was free."