There are two ways to approach a trigger.
1) Attempt to control the trigger: Hide. Run! Duck behind someone or something. Refuse to get in the photo. Have a freaking fit when someone takes your picture. Destroy the evidence. Audit photos before they get posted. Crop your arm off. Crop your butt out of the photo. Don't laugh, I know some of you have done it.
Attempting to control it only keeps you stuck. The idea is - if I can keep from seeing my picture, I can keep from feeling like this.
The problem is, you already feel like this. It's inside of you, or else a photo would have zero power to make you feel so crappy. It's time to own it. I feel crappy. And as long as I don't have to see myself in the mirror, in a photo, in a window reflection, then all is well.
But the root of this is unacceptance, the language of the lower self; the wounded, fearful self. The lower self speaks in judgment, criticism, shame, blame and guilt. Her go-to statements are "never good enough", failure, fat, unacceptable.
2) View the trigger as a gift: Seek out every opportunity to get your picture taken. Say cheese! Now, look at your photo and *LISTEN*. What is the voice within you saying? Is it speaking from compassion and kindness? From acceptance and love? Or is it the berating, self-loathing voice of the fearful, lower self?
The gift is awareness. The photo is not causing this! The photo is triggering something that's already going on within us to come to LIGHT. That is always a gift, because in the light, we can challenge these thoughts. In the light, we can bring radical awareness to our inner narrative and see who (which part of us) is speaking for us.
I don't want my fearful self, who believes she doesn't matter so she judges, criticizes, shames, blames, self-loathes and beats herself up, to be the one who shows up in my life. Especially with all her people pleasing, approval addictions and lack of boundaries that make her such a mess. I want to understand her false-beliefs and help her heal them.
I want my highest self, my accepting, loving, compassionate, giving, red-rock climbing, soul searching, encouraging, inspiring, deeply believing self to be the one who shows up in interactions with people! I also want my highest self to be making my choices.
My lower, wounded, fearful self is the crappiest decision maker ever. She can't choose her health over instant gratification, she can't hold tight to her boundaries, she is a people-pleasing approval junkie. I know her well! I love her dearly, now, but she doesn't get to make my choices for me. She is still in recovery.
When you see your picture, and you don't like what you see, you will stay stuck forever if you think what needs fixed is the subject of the photo. You, your hair, your body, your weight, your make-up, your butt, your chin, etc.
You will be free when you see your picture, and you no longer allow the narrative of criticism, judgment, shame, blame and self-loathing. That is healing and true peace. False peace comes from running to hide when someone pulls out a camera. All that does is keep the fact that you hate yourself, buried.
Bring it to light! Heal it once and for all. There is absolutely no reason to go through life bullying yourself. Rise up, become your highest self, and say cheese!