Towards the end of the two hours, I was talking about healing and the layers we must go through to get to our core beliefs. If our core beliefs are based on lies, we will struggle and stay stuck. If our core beliefs are rooted in truth, we will be able to make choices that honor and support our best life.
One of my seminar participants asked, “How long does that take?”
I love this question. When someone finds out I lost a significant amount of weight, they often ask the same thing. “How long did it take you?” I usually say seven years, which results in a look of shock and horror. I can see the thought as it passes. “I don’t have seven years to devote to this!”
About a year ago, I had several clients say to me, “You should really write a book.” When I sat down to compile my newsletters to see if I had enough for a book, it turns out I had 665 pages worth. That is a very big book! So I edited and deleted and got the book down to 260 pages. Never, as I was writing my page or two a week, did I think I was compiling a body of work that was enough to fill two volumes. It was just a little each week, every week.
I visited a friend recently who has lost a lot of weight. She is eating healthier and watching her portions. When she got weighed after our visit, she told me she lost 0.8 pounds. Most women I know would look at that 0.8 pound weight loss and think, “not enough.” But she didn’t. She is in this for the long run and was positive about it. And it got me thinking.
What does 0.8 pounds add up to? Turns out it’s a 42 pound weight loss in one year. One year! Most women I work with would be thrilled to be on that journey with 42 pounds down. So why do we look at the 0.8 and think, “not enough”?
That kind of thinking comes from being rooted in LIES. You will know that you are healing when you stop wondering how long it will take. You are too busy enjoying your new-found freedom.
There really is no end, there is just honoring and supporting your best life, or giving up. One or the other, day after day. This is daily practice. This is the key to perseverance and commitment: to be radically present and keep showing up every day like there is no other day. The past is gone and tomorrow isn’t here yet. No day but today.
That may look like one page of writing. Or a walk. Or more water, more vegetables, more exercise. It seems so small and insignificant. It is not. It is everything. A page becomes a book. A walk leads to fitness. Point eight becomes 42.
Show up. Show up. Show up. Your life is today.
“One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice - though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!” each voice cried. But you didn’t stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible. It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do - determined to save the only life you could save.” ~ Mary Oliver