Imagine you have a plain white coat. Think London Fog, knee length. Now take a thick, black sharpie and begin to write all the labels you've put on yourself. Don't forget anything that has been spoken to you. Never good enough? Write it down the sleeve. Where would the words "too fat" go? Mine would be across my belly. Abandoned? Write it. Ever been called lazy? Write it. Ever thought to yourself, "I don't have enough self discipline"? Write it. Ever thought you weren't important? Write it. Too old? Write it. Failed too many times? Write it. Others always have to come first or I'm selfish? Write it. You get the idea.
Now... feel what it is like to put this coat on. All I ask is you wear it for a minute. Feel how heavy it is. Feel how constricting it feels.
Now take it off. Feel the freedom?
Those labels are lies. I started thinking about all the stuff written about progress. Progress over perfection. We have to progress. We have to change. I get that. We might really want to. But what would happen if we wanted to change because we felt so amazing instead of so unworthy?
What if we knew the life that was intended for us? Without the heavy coat.
Take it off!! I mean it. Get rid of it. Throw it away. Burn it. Bleach it.
Is it off?
Now, we need to make a new one. Actually, feel free to write directly on your body with that sharpie now because you're going to keep these new labels. Or if you prefer, a new coat; brand new and all white. But before you write, take a few deep breaths and connect to the truth. I want you to feel what it is like to wear radical acceptance. Because the truth is you don't have to progress at all to be OK. You are OK right now. In fact, you aren't just OK, you're AMAZING. So write it. A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!
What else are you? Empowered. Strong. Beautiful. Compassionate. Loving. Write it!! Creative. Inquisitive. Powerful. Nurturing. Generous. Kind. Write it!! Daughter. Mother. Wife. Friend. Sister. Heart. Soul. Write it!! Fierce. Determined. Gentle. Peaceful. Hard Working. Caring. Worthy. Enough. Significant. Safe. Free. Accepted. ENOUGH. Write it!!
Now put it on. Wear it. No eye rolling or resisting or "yeah, but..." or back talk. Put it on and wear it.
How does it feel? Feel empowered? Feel strong?
Are you wearing your new coat?
What you wear matters. Put on failure and never good enough, and you will walk out failure and never good enough. Put on radical acceptance and absolutely good enough and you will walk out radical acceptance and absolutely good enough.
Just because it was spoken to you in the past, does not make it true. Just because you may have experienced something painful in the past, does not mean that is who you are.
You know who you are! Live it. Don't hold back. Wear the label proudly of your awesomeness and you will see what happens next. Choices line up with your belief about who you are and next thing you know, those old struggles to eat food as you were intended and to move your body as you were intended fall away. They fall away! When you wear the labels that match who you really are, you become who you were intended to be.
And trust me, that is NOT a woman who is consumed with whether she is fat or thin. Let's LIVE LIFE!
I mean it. Go!