One of those false beliefs for women is, "I should be able to do this on my own."
Should, should, should. Right?
Almost all of us have done it. Bought fitness equipment, set it up in the basement, and rarely used it. I used to have a sweet set up in my basement from which to train clients. But when I'd go down there alone to work out, it was boring, so I rarely used it myself.
Here's what I know. Women (in general) need to do fitness with others. We want the energy of other human beings around. Conversation, laughter, support and squats!
As I was thinking about this topic, I realized that almost all my friendships are from fitness, except those I knew before. The women I have the Broadway series tickets with are friends I met through group fitness. The big Halloween party we have every year? That's our fitness group. Marie, Margie, Kim all from fitness. Wow, the people I know simply because I was invited to join a Body Pump group ten years ago. What a gift!
I had gone through divorce, then another craptastic relationship that had left me drained and sad. I worked out alone with my music, which I definitely needed. But what I didn't know I also needed was people to work out with. And for it to be FUN!
I meet a lot of women post divorce, retired, widowed, or empty nest, who feel drained and sad like I did. It's hard to know what to do with that. Let me tell you! Find your tribe! I've watched it happen at the studio for years. It's one of my favorite things about doing this. The friendships that are formed. The laughter and the joking around. The way everyone is there for each other through tough times. The way they end up hanging out after to chat.
Lie: I should be able to do this on my own.
Truth: We are made to walk this path together.
It's not a weakness. And just because you know a guy that can go to the basement every day and exercise, that doesn't mean we should be able to.
I pray every morning that if there is a woman out there who needs a tribe/community to work out with, that she finds us. If you are already here and part of our tribe, I am so grateful for you. I hope it has filled your spirit like it has mine, with conversation, laughter, support and yes...squats.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.