Or if I am stuck in a rut, and can't seem to blast past this plateau?
What I have seen make the biggest impact right away, is accountability.
A new coaching client signed up last week. We haven't had our first in-person session yet, but each day since she joined, she has sent me a photo of her shoes, in the pedals of her exercise bike at home. Today's caption was, "day 6". She is in a cast, having just had surgery, but simply the act of joining lit her fire. She got the idea from my book, which starts with the mile a day challenge.
I am 100% positive that my role in this is accountability. I didn't tell her to take on this challenge. This is her journey. She has hired me to help her navigate it.
There will be many important steps that come after the initial accountability. As many of us have learned, getting started is one thing. Keeping going is quite another.
All the lessons she is going to learn will be massively more powerful because of what my empowerment coach KB at Sweet Empowerment calls a Supreme Energy Shift. When you go from not doing anything, and feeling really bad about it, to doing something and getting to say, "I did it", that is a Supreme Energy Shift.
From that place of, "Check me out, I'm doing it! I've been on this bike every day," we can talk about the big stuff like fear of failure, fear of success, sabotage, and all the other things that keep us stuck and repeating the came cycles over and over. Losing the same damn weight over and over.
I don't know about you, but I don't ever want to have to quit smoking again. And I don't ever want to lose 50 pounds again. It is difficult and scary. I had to dismantle so much bad thinking to ensure I'd not keep driving myself crazy with starts and stops, weight loss then gaining it back and watching all that work slip away, conquering the addiction but then giving in again and again.
Working constantly at it but never getting where I was trying to go. How exhausting!
It's no wonder we give up.
The number one lesson I have learned as I made change after change in my life, is I thrive with accountability. It's why I loved having a personal trainer, how I got involved in group fitness, why I hired a life coach, and why I still seek spiritual direction today.
It helps me process things as they come up.
Whether you are new and thinking about making a positive change in your life, or you have been training at Clear Rock for over ten years, if you need help, we are here for you. We try very hard to be both encouraging of wherever you are on your journey, and available when you are ready to take the next step.
What I want to do is be there for you when you are ready to make changes.
What I don't want to do is hammer you with unwanted accountability every time you walk through the door for your workout, and make you feel like you are failing with food (which is what I believe weigh-ins do), or cardio or your weight, because I truly believe that every workout is a VICTORY. Every single one.
So let's be clear. I would love to take the next step with you into more fitness, more health, more freedom. But I will not hammer you over the head with it. You have to ask me and let me know it is time.
You can text me a picture of yourself on the treadmill, your bike, outside for a walk anytime day or night! I love those, especially when they are accompanied by something along the lines of, "I did it!" or "Day 6!" Better yet, post the photo on Facebook and inspire the entire Clear Rock community.
You can write up your goals and bring them in, we'll sit down and create a plan on how to get from here to there. I love doing that.
It can be anything. Weight loss, (yes, we love self-acceptance, but we are also allowed to want to ditch the weight and feel better), a 5K or half marathon, a hike out west, Machu Picchu. Anything!
When you feel that heart tug, of course a fearful thought is going to jump right up and try to put that fire out. Don't let it. Say your goal out loud to someone and allow them to hold you accountable. It might be uncomfortable because it's so vulnerable. I still battle with asking for help, and letting down the facade of Strong & Independent. Every time I act alone as Ms. Strong & Independent, I don't do nearly as well as when I acknowledge that I need help, and allow someone to help me navigate the journey.
That's the first step to changing and growing. That's how to get started and keep going. Accountability first, so you can experience success and say out loud, "I did it!" I'm doing it. I am making a change. Everything else comes second.